A while back, we were at a party and a friend of mine commented that I was an introvert. I was a bit taken aback at first, I don’t see myself as a complete introvert. But I thought more about it and realized that the me that she sees most often really is a bit of an introvert. And I also reminded myself that compared to her, I am definitely an introvert. She is the picture of extrovert that you see in the dictionary. And it is fitting for her.
This got me thinking about the different parts of us that people may see in different situations.
Any one that has taken a Psychology class or a career assessment in the last decade can tell you what the Briggs-Myers Personality Test is. Basically, it is a test where you answer a series of questions and the results tell you what your personality type is (Duh! Personality test). It is used to help people find the right career for them etc. I have taken this test several times. Each time I am either ISFJ (introvert, sensing, feeling, judging) or ESFJ (extrovert, sensing, feeling, judging). It just depends on the day as to how the first component turns out. I can go either way.
While, my friend sees me mainly at work and occasionally at social settings, to her I am an introvert. If you were to ask my husband about the balance in our relationship and I am completely an extrovert. My mom would think that I am an Extrovert, but my brother would think I am more of an introvert.
It is just one of those things, we are different versions of ourselves at different times. The pieces make the whole. And you also choose how much of your true self that the greater public gets to know. There are a few people in my life that know the whole me; the good and the bad. My nieces know most of me, but they don’t need to see the me that drank most of a bottle of rum at a friend’s birthday party last weekend. My grandma only knows the me that is a nice granddaughter that doesn’t call enough.
So I take the pieces of my multiple personality self, and I will be that introvert and that extrovert. And I will be the exact me that I am supposed to be.